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Friday, January 13, 2006

The Math Teacher
I got this story as a forward long back..but I still do read this once in a while!
One day a teacher asked her students to list the names of the other students in the room on two sheets of paper, leaving a space between each name. Then she told them to think of the nicest thing they could say about each of their classmates and write it down. It took the remainder of the class period to finish their assignment, and as the students left the room, each one handed in the papers. That Saturday, the teacher wrote down the name of each student on a separate sheet of paper, and listed what everyone else had said about that individual.

On Monday she gave each student his or her list. Before long, the entire class was smiling. "Really?" she heard whispered. "I never knew that meant anything to anyone!" "I didn't know others liked me so much." No one ever mentioned those papers in class again. She never knew if they discussed them after class or with their parents, but it didn't matter. The exercise had accomplished its purpose. The students were happy with themselves and one another.

That group of students moved on. Several years later, one of the students was killed in Vietnam and his teacher attended the funeral of that special student. She had never seen a serviceman in a military coffin before. He looked so handsome, so mature. The church was packed with his friends. One by one those who loved him took a last walk by the coffin. The teacher was the last one to bless the coffin. As she stood there, one of the soldiers who acted as pallbearer came up to her. "Were you Mark's math teacher?" he asked. She nodded, yes. Then he said "Mark talked about you a lot."

After the funeral, most of Mark's former classmates went together to a luncheon. Mark's mother and father were there, obviously waiting to speak with his teacher. "We want to show you something," his father said, taking a wallet out of his pocket. "They found this on Mark when he was killed. We thought you might recognize it." Opening the billfold, he carefully removed two worn pieces of notebook paper that had obviously been taped, folded and refolded many times. The teacher knew without looking that the papers were the ones on which she had listed all the good things each of Mark's classmates had said about him. "Thank you so much for doing that," Mark's mother said. "As you can see, Mark treasured it."

Mark's classmates started to gather around us. Charlie smiled rather sheepishly and said, "I still have my list it’s in the top drawer of my desk at home." Chuck's wife said, "Chuck asked me to put his in our wedding album.” I have mine too," Marilyn said. "It's in my diary." Then Vicki, another classmate, reached into her pocketbook, took out her wallet and showed her worn and frazzled list to the group. I carry this with me at all times, “Vicki said without batting an eyelash.” I think we all saved our lists." That's when the teacher finally sat down and cried. She cried for Mark and for all his friends who would never see him again. The density of people in society is so thick that we forget that life will end one day. And we don't know when that one day will be. So please, tell the people you love and care for, that they are special and important.

Tell them, before it is too late....

6 Comments:

Blogger Rita said...

Wow! This is a nice story! And yes, it is really important to express your feelings. Never assume that the other person would understand them. Just say it! :D
Thanks for posting this :)

6:43 AM  
Blogger Rita said...

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9:55 AM  
Blogger My Ramblings... said...

That is a nice forward, I still have it saved. :)

10:51 PM  
Blogger Vidya said...

Hey Naveen! That is a good one.. But dont you think showing your feeelings is the most difficult thing to do..

1:04 AM  
Blogger Shikha said...

that was touching..i have forwarded it to my friends:)

3:33 AM  
Blogger Naveen said...

$Rita - I'm done with my tag..check it out :)

$My Ramblings - Yea, it is :)

$Vidya - True, It is real hard to express your feelings to someone! But it is not altogether impossible..it needs a candid mind to do so :)

$Shikha - Hope your friends like it too :)

11:13 AM  

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